Signposts on the New Jersey Turnpike

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.  We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”  -Albert Einstein

Many years ago my boyfriend, his mother, and I were driving to visit their extended family in New Jersey.  We had made the trip a few times before, but I had never driven.  He was feeling tired and asked me to drive.  He told me the directions and I took over while he slept.  After a while we came to some beautiful country side, rolling farmland and lovely vistas.  Then I was driving through a state forest.  To my surprise there were deer visible from the road.  Some deer were even resting on the ground, calmly looking out at the cars going by.  It was really beautiful.  I started to realize though, that none of this seemed familiar.  I woke my boyfriend up and found that we were very much off course.

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He was very angry.  I had followed his directions, but he had failed to tell me about an exit I should have taken.  He called me stupid for not knowing that I should have taken the exit.  It was not a pretty scene.  We finally got back to the exit and continued on to New Jersey and his family.  The drive turned into the New Jersey Interstate.  New Jersey is a beautiful state, even called the Garden State, but the main turnpike is a wasteland of chemical plants, electric companies, highway rest stops, and factories.  It is rather ugly and depressing.

Needless to say my boyfriend and I didn’t have the best relationship.  It was not encouraging, supportive, or loving.  This drive was symbolic of our life together.  If I continued on his path then my life would not be beautiful.  It would not be peaceful.  It would not be a picture of calm and harmony.  The interstate, representing my path if I continued going his way, was a scourge on the landscapre, a depressing picture of industrial waste.  My path, the “lost” path,” was a beautiful and serence journey.  I had discovered another way, a more beautiful and peaceful way, while he slept.

Our life often brings us messages like this.  If we are open to our intuition and what it is trying to tell us then we can use instances like this to help us steer ourselves in the right direction.  Just like dreams, our waking lives send us portents and symbols to lead us to the best path for us.  Interpret your life just as you might interpret a dream.  Especially if you have strange occurrences or feelings about a situation.

If I had continued on the road of life with him, my life would have been less than it is now.  It may have been a life of ugliness and function.  When I took my own path it became a life of beauty and peace.  My life is so much better now that I am on my own path.

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When we are on a path with a partner it can be a beautiful thing filled with love and fun.  But, we must be sure that this path is one which is nourishing to us.  It must be a path that fills our soul with a feeling of joy.  Using our intuiton and recognizing the symbolism that we bring into our lives is an important part of living in right action.  Had I dismissed this incident as simply another one of life’s pitfalls instead of looking more deeply into it I may have continued on that road for even longer than I did.  That would have slowed down my growth and with it my happiness.

If something unusual happens in your life, try looking at it as a sign.  See how the symbolism of it fits into your life and use it to grow.  We are given many opportunites to “read” our lives and make change where it is needed.  Take advantage of these signposts.  Read them and learn from them.  Be open to signs and symbols in your life.  When we can learn from easy lessons lke this it is not as painful as forcing change.  It helps us to make decisions.

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If you ever feel that you must make a change and you are not sure what to do, do nothing, but look for the answers within your life.  You will manifest answers using signs and symbols.  Don’t worry, signs and symbols will keep appearing to you if you miss them.  Be especially aware of repeated patterns.

If you feel anxious and connot wait for these signs then try the exercise in A Cottage in the Woods.  This is a good way to connect with the Collective Consciousness.

Seeing and using the circumstances of your life as signs to help in your decision making is a very helpful tool.  Being mindful of these symbols helps us to recognize them and use them.  Take your road.  Be the director of your own life.  You know, deep inside, what is best for you and when you can use these signposts (that you have manifested) you can more easily live your desired life.  I may have been lost for a while, but I was directed to my best life and my highest self.

Some directed affirmation:

  • I clearly see the messages I send myself in the form of life events.
  • I am the driver of my destiny.
  • I use the signs and symbols in my life to help me make good decisions.
  • I am aware of my emotions and use them as a tool to grow.
  • I am living my perfect life.

Do the Cottage in the Woods exercise again.  It’s worth a re-visit.  Take a relaxing walk in the woods.

Greedy people are mentally ill.

“Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile. —Albert Einstein

Well, of course greedy people are mentally ill.  Who in their right minds would hoard money while others starve?  I’m not talking about your grocery money here, I’m talking about the people who amass money as a prize, as a status symbol.  Those who have millions upon millions, or even billions, and yet allow poverty, starvation, lack of education, and child labor to continue when they could do something about it, these are the folks I’m addressing.  If your neighbor had no money or food to feed her children, I’m sure you would pick up some fruits and vegetables for them.  The people who have a thousand fold the money that you do can help people on a grandiose scale and yet, for the most part, they don’t.  Or they give a million dollars while keeping 75 million for themselves.

What do these people have in common?  Insanity.  Their insanity is caused by an irrational fear of lack or, more often, by their ego’s desire for confirmation of their worthiness.  To them worthiness equates with financial success.  They feel inferior if they don’t hold more material assets than the next guy.  It must be hard to compete with Bill Gates and Warren Buffett.

Let’s face it, this is just insane.  To pursue wealth at the expense of your planet is insane.  How many billionaires continue to amass money while knowingly poisoning our planet?  How many pharmaceutical companies continue to skew research and put deadly and dangerous pills and chemicals on the market to puff up profits.  They kill people to make more money.

When a person commits a murder, they are insane, obviously not in their right minds.  If they were in their right minds they would react reasonably and with compassion.  Yet, when huge corporations kill people en masse, it is called greed, or just plain doing business.  It is shrugged off as part of the game.  I would submit that the corporate leaders in this world are nothing less than insane psychopaths who know not what they do.  Send them all the love you can.  Seriously, send them love and see them as the perfect beings that they are so they may know peace and stop the insanity.  They need it desperately.

There are a few of these perfect beings who have awoken.  These are truly stories of enlightenment.  To make money beyond what most can imagine and to wake up to the fact that it does not buy their happiness is truly amazing.  The material world is such an incredible seductress.  Having a little extra cash for some folks is very exciting.  What will we do with it?  Take a vacation?  Fix up the kitchen?  Imagine having a virtually unlimited supply of money.  It would be intoxicating.   Imagine walking away from it.

John Robbins was heir to the Baskin Robbins Ice Cream Empire.  He walked away from it because he saw that it was a destructive and cruel business.  His uncle and father, founders of the company, died very young from heart disease related to all the fat and sugar in their product.  John found that dairy cows lived a horrendous life, artificially impregnated, their calves taken away at birth, the males either killed immediately or sold to the veal industry, the female calves are saved to lead a desperate life like their mothers, but not allowed their precious mother’s milk so it can be sold for people’s milk, cheese, and ice cream.  He saw the destruction to the planet caused by the animal farming industry.  He walked away to be true to his personal beliefs and ethics.  He is an inspirational writer on living with integrity.  His books, Diet for a New America and Food Revolution, are worth the read.

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John Robbins, healthy and living with integrity.

Tom Shadyac, who directed such hits as Ace Ventura and Patch Adams, among others, had lots of money.  He had homes all over the world, each worth millions of dollars.  He had more money than he needed.  A bicycle accident that came close to killing him changed his life.  He started to realize that your career doesn’t have to be your entire life and that it’s as important to give back as it is to receive.  He made a documentary about his transformation called I Am and also wrote a memoir, Life’s Operating Manual.   I Am has been avaiable on Netflix recently.  He sold everything, now lives in a trailer park (it’s a nice one, but it’s a trailer park), and continues to give all his money to elevate the life of those with less than him.   Wow.

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Tom Shadyac, a happy guy.

The following is an excerpt from a story in the Christian Science Monitor.

“Scott Neeson’s final epiphany came one day in June 2004. The high-powered Hollywood executive stood, ankle deep in trash, at the sprawling landfill of Stung Meanchey, a poor shantytown in Cambodia’s capital.

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Scott Neeson, a former head of 20th Century Fox International, cares for more than 1,000 Cambodian children and their families.  In a haze of toxic fumes and burning waste, swarms of Phnom Penh’s most destitute were rooting through refuse, jostling for scraps of recyclables in newly dumped loads of rubbish. They earned 4,000 riel ($1) a day – if they were lucky.

Many of the garbage sorters were young children. Covered in filthy rags, they were scruffy, sickly, and sad.

Clasped to Mr. Neeson’s ear was his cellphone. Calling the movie mogul from a U.S. airport, a Hollywood superstar’s agent was complaining bitterly about inadequate in-flight entertainment on a private jet that Sony Pictures Entertainment, where Neeson was head of overseas theatrical releases, had provided for his client.

Neeson overheard the actor griping in the background. ” ‘My life wasn’t meant to be this difficult.’ Those were his exact words,” Neeson says.” I was standing there in that humid, stinking garbage dump with children sick with typhoid, and this guy was refusing to get on a Gulfstream IV because he couldn’t find a specific item onboard,” he recalls. “If I ever wanted validation I was doing the right thing, this was it.’ “

Within months, Mr. Neeson gave it all up, sold his fabulous mansion and everything else, moved to Cambodia and has been helping those children ever since.  He came to his senses.  He is no longer insane.

On some level we all need to come to our senses.  What is really important?  Is buying yet another piece of clothing really going to make us happy?  Is the bigger house and better car going to ring our bell?

Do you want a more enriched and fulfilling life?  Will you find it living in a seven million dollar mansion or dining at a five-star Zagat rated restaurant, or wearing the latest designer clothing?  That’s one level.  Will you find it in your 2,000 square foot home, driving your BMW, and wearing off the rack designer duds?  There’s another level.

We can all disassociate ourselves from those bazillionaires and say we can’t do much, but is it true?  Can’t we live a simple satisfying life knowing that we are helping others, like the children in Cambodia?  Is that worth more to us than a new dress suit or pair of shoes?

Only you can decide how much you want the material world to determine your life.  You can buy into the idea that money makes the man (or woman) or you can choose to live a life of integrity and charity.  There is one thing you can do no matter how rich or poor you are.  You can give love to all.  You can offer the gift of seeing people as perfect beings of love to the rich and the poor.  You can see yourself as perfect, just as you are, then you won’t need designers deciding how to improve your image.  You are magnificent now.

When we know we are magnificent, we won’t need to prove it with baubles.

Ideal affirmations:

  • I am enough.
  • My worth is in my being.
  • I love all beings.
  • The Kingdom of Love is within.
  • My self-worth is inherent.
  • I am perfect.
  • We are all perfect, we are all one.

Imagine working with Scott Neeson for a day.  Imagine living in a very small house or apartment with people you love.  Imagine giving to others who need your help.  Imagine knowing how perfect you are.
 

 

Free Unlimited Love!!!!

“Love is a better teacher than duty.”  ~Albert Einstein

We tend to put limits on things.  Limits can be very good.  I limit the amount of soda I drink to about 16 ounces a year.  What can I say?  I like Root Beer.  We would do well to limit our food intake. It would probably be wise to limit our alcoholic beverages and our pot smoking.  We can limit our time spent in front of the TV and reading trashy romance novels.  We should limit our time working.  There are things, though, that we should not limit, simply because they are infinite.  We should not limit our circle of love.

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When we limit our love to only those who we know then we are doing ourselves and the world a grave injustice.  When we give love to everyone our love only continues to expand.  When you see a person who may cause you to feel uncomfortable, such as a mentally ill homeless person, and you extend love to them suddenly you feel better.  Not just about that person, but about yourself as well and the next person you see will benefit from your expanding capacity to love.  When I say extend love to them I don’t mean buy them a sandwich or give them some change, I simply mean to feel love for them and send it to them.  See them as perfect beings of love, as you are.

Many people, I have found, love only those with whom they share a blood tie, others love only those with whom they share a national tie, others love only those with whom they share an ethnic tie, and so on.  Why is this so?  If you put twenty-seven toddlers in a room, each of them a different race, ethnicity, gender, religion, socioeconomic group, or political party (we’ll give them the party of their parents for this hypothetical!) will they isolate themselves, will they distrust or dislike the others?  I kind of doubt it.  All of our likes and dislikes are learned.  All of our prejudices and politics are learned.  All of our isms are invented to divide and conquer.  As long as we see ourselves as a world of differences, then we are a world of separation.  As long as we distrust those who we perceive to be different we are acting in fear.  Fear of attack based completely on an ignorance of the other’s life.

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We tend to be insular and distrusting.  That is what we are taught as children, generally by our religious dogma and our government’s propaganda.  There is a priest who says there is no such thing as hell.  He says it was made up by the church to give them power over the people.  He states that there is no God that would condemn a person to an eternity of torture.  Our governments tell us that there are terrorists.  These same governments support political coups, terrorist cells, and wars based on economic profit from the natural resources of countries.  People aren’t born with hate in their hearts.  They are born with love and trust.

Unshackle your heart.  Open your mind.  Love All.  Back in the 1970’s, I believe, after years of the Cold War, when Russia and the United States were supposed to be enemies, Phil Donahue did a show in which he had one audience of Americans and one of Russians.  Not politicians, not government spokespeople, not corporate heads, but just your average everyday citizens.  They all stated that they didn’t hate each other.  Who was doing the hating here?  Who was imagining this great divide?  And why?   It doesn’t matter.  But, whoever it was, they were misguided.  The Cold War was an era of hate and mistrust based on nothing but propaganda.

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Today we have the same misguided notions being delivered to us by the media.  A not so independent media.  Don’t listen to it.  Listen to your heart, the one you were born with, the one that knows only love.   Don’t hate the misguided souls who preach division.  Send love to them, too.

Don’t limit your love to your family, or your small circle of friends, or your race, or you ethnic group, or your socioeconomic class.  Open you heart to love all.  Whenever you see someone, anyone, send them love.  Forgive everyone.  Know that we are all doing our best.  If we could do better we would, right?  So would they.  Remember, it’s fear that crowds out love.  Don’t let fear of others keep you from enjoying a life filled with love.

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You choose which one to turn on.

Never limit what is infinite.  Your capacity to love is infinite.   When you love someone you help them to love themselves and you help you to love yourself.  It’s another win-win situation.  Go ahead, live life unlimited!

Unlimited affirmations:

  • I love all beings.
  • I extend love to all I see.
  • I am love.
  • I am part of the infinite energy of love.
  • I love myself.
  • I forgive all.
  • My life is perfect.

Imagine that you are at a meeting in the United Nations.  Suddenly everyone stands up and starts to walk around the hall, hugging everyone and telling them they love them.  Isn’t that what a group of little children would do?  See it and enjoy the vision.

 

Forget about pills. Get over here and give me a hug!

“Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.” ~Albert Einstein

Unless it’s from your creepy, sweaty Uncle Buttkiss, hugs have no down side.  Hugs are warm, joyful, melting, expressions of love and happiness.  We have all known that for quite a while and science is finally catching up.  According to scientists at The University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill, hugging for twenty seconds, along with hand holding for ten minutes with your partner, reduces stress levels.  Indicators such as blood pressure and heart rate were used against a control group that did not hug or hold hands.  You don’t have to hug with a partner; hugging a friend or even a massage has the same effect, it’s the magic of human touch.

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We humans have a complex system of stress relief.  Just under our skin are teeny, tiny little discs called Pacinian corpuscles.   These little transmitters are linked to our vagus nervous system.  They initiate the response the body has to touch from another human.  We start to produce oxytocin which is the bonding hormone.  It makes us feel affection and an emotional connection.  It is the hormone that mothers produce during birth so that they forget all about the pain of labor and simply fall in love with their babies.  It has a calming effect on men, making them more affectionate and more likely to be monogamous.  Increased hugs would equate with increased faithfulness and fidelity!  Kissing and hand holding work the same way.  

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Hugs slow the release of cortisol which is the stress drug.  It’s the hormone that causes anxiety and even weight gain.  Hugging will keep you slim.  Hugging will keep you relaxed.  Hugging can replace antidepressants!   When we hug dopamine is released.  Dopamine levels play a huge part in depression and are also linked to Parkinson’s Disease.  Dopamine helps keep us motivated and feeling good and positive.  It’s the feel good drug!  I like Dopamine!

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Touch makes all the difference in your life.  Babies who do not get the benefit of touch do not thrive.  The effects of neglect on the brain are the same as those of physical abuse.  It’s amazing how much we benefit from, and even need, physical expressions of love through hugs, cuddling, hand-holding, and kissing.  Couples who only kiss when they make love are more stressed than those who spontaneously kiss during the day.   It releases endorphins, another feel good hormone.  It helps to relax you and you can forget about your problems. A kiss is a mini-vacation!

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Hugs give us a sence of self-worth and self-love.  This is especially true for children.  If our parents are very cuddly with us we do much better.  These physical demonstrations of love we receive as children imprint on us and are carried through our life.  Whenever we hug we have the feeling of love we received from being hugged and cuddled as a child and baby.  If your parents weren’t all huggy and cuddly you can still start being more affectionate now.

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It’s hard to start hugging when you came from a family that didn’t hug or physically demonstrate love for each other.  But, you can do it.  Start with short hugs.  Talk with your siblings about the fact that you grew up with out many displays of affection, but that you’d like to change that.  They probably feel the same way.  Tell them you want to hug more.  Then hug!  Start a habit of hugging every time you see each other.  Talk about the twenty second hug rule with your friends and family!  They’ll love it, believe me!

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Raise your children with hugs and cuddling and lots of physical expressions of love.  It helps them love themselves and deal with stress far better.  Hugs are practically the only prescription you need for a healthy life.  Okay, eat well and exercise, too, but hug, hug, hug!

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We get our sense of connectedness with others through physical affection.  Our energies connect as well as all the chemical reactions we enjoy from touch.  We are all one and hugging reminds us that we are part of this greater whole.   If you can do it without being creepy, touch people.  Connect with people.  In this day and age where people are afraid they will be held liable for a hug it is often tough.  Schools don’t allow children to hug each other.  Even five-year olds are punished for hugging their friends.  This is ridiculous!  Hug!!!  Encourage your children to show how they feel.  Encourage them to hug each other and to hug you and their extended family.  Start a legacy of hugs!

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I’ll leave you with the greatest hug master of our era.   Please check out this short three-minute video because there’s another great thing about hugs, watching others hugs has many of the same benefits as if you were doing the hugging!   When we see acts of kindness and love our bodies release the same chemicals as if we were a giver or recipient of the love!  That’s how powerful love is!

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Go out there and love.  Start your own free hugs campaign!   Get over here and give me a hug!

Some huggable affirmations:

  • I express the love I feel for people through words and hugs.
  • I find it easy to show people through physical affection how I feel about them
  • I hug every day.
  • My friends and family and I hug when we greet each other and say Good-Bye and just for no reason at all.
  • Hugs are wonderful and I enjoy them.

As you are on your way to visit a friend or family member, imagine that when you get there you give them a great big hug.  Doesn’t that feel great.  Now do it.

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Now, imagine a world where everyone got many good long warm hugs everyday.  No hugs, no peace.  Know hugs, know peace.  Okay, so it doesn’t make perfect sense, but you know what I mean!

 

 

 

Dancing to your own music.

“I believe a simple and unassuming life is good for everybody, both physically and mentally.” ~Albert Einstein

I’ve held a theory for a long time that everything on earth has a divine purpose and a manifest purpose.  I use the word manifest to describe a purpose created by “man” in this instance, not as the verb, meaning to materialize a thought.  The divine purpose of a deck of cards would be to help people make choices and give guidance through divination.  The manifest purpose of cards would be for gambling.  The divine purpose of hemp would be for health purposes, environmental uses, and replacing plastics.  The manifest purpose would be drug abuse.  I’m not saying using cannabis is necessarily abuse, but it can be abused.  Don’t eat the whole pan of brownies by yourself!

When you see the beauty in a painting and purchase it, you are doing it to remain in presence.  Whenever we recognize beauty we are immediately brought into presence.  At that moment there is nothing but the beauty.  It is usually only momentary, but it is a perfect moment.  We buy the painting, in this instance, as a symbol of presence.  Usually we can tell if something is being used in the manifest purpose because ego is involved.  For instance when we purchase art as an investment and status symbol it is a manifest action.  We identify with the idea, the thought, that we are superior because we own this expensive painting.

Growing a garden can have a divine purpose or a manifest purpose.  Growing a garden for food and beauty is divine.   Sharing beauty (and the harvest) is divine.  Growing a garden for show and awards is manifest.  We know what bragging and boasting are.  Are we using something to validate or promote our status or are we using it to enhance the world?

A home has a divine purpose as a safe haven to abide in love and peace; it is a place that welcomes and embraces friends and strangers.  If it is used as an ornament or fortress, it is being used as a manifest tool to separate the owner from others, whether by social status or as a symbol of power and control.

We can ask ourselves how things make us feel or why we want them.  We can really dive into the value we place on objects and why we value them.  Do we want to use things for their highest purpose or as a status symbol?

Some times we buy things just for fun.  Fun is a wonderful thing and is definitely divine!  Sometimes we buy things to show off, a bit egoic, n’est pas.  When we act from ego we are separating ourselves from others.  We are trying to be better than them.  This is not an action of love.  So whenever we are acting from ego we are cutting ourselves off from the Collective Consciousness.  Whenever we cut ourselves off from the Collective Consciousness we are slowing down our growth and we are slowing down the manifestation of our dreams.

We can always sort out our motivation by asking a few questions. If you are thinking of a purchase the questions “Is it useful” or “Is it beautiful” come to mind.  If something is of no use to you or you don’t find it exquisite then you should probably get rid of it.   Even then you can get carried away with “collecting.”  I have a love of 1930’s era American pottery.  It got out of hand.  I had to choose one color that I loved.  I chose white.  Now I only buy beautiful old white 1930’s American pottery, and I do that rarely.  I must really love the design.  It makes me happy.  Some people don’t get it.  That’s okay.

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I have recently been sorting through my house and getting rid of stuff.  I made four trips to the dump.  Most of the stuff went into the Swap Shop at our local dump where one’s man’s trash is another man’s treasure.  It feels good to get rid of stuff.  It’s liberating.

But, it felt so good that now I’m thinking of getting rid of everything.   Seriously.  I have too much stuff.  I’m thinking of getting rid of my too big house and joining a commune where one only uses about 10% of the resources that the average American uses.  Doesn’t that sound kind of divine?  10%!  That sounds like 10% of the worries, head aches, cleaning, shopping, driving, maintaining, and working.  I could live like that.

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I wouldn’t even have to invent the wheel.  There are places like this all around the world.  I’m especially taken with the Dancing Rabbit EcoVillage.   This appears to be a place of community and sharing and less judgment.  No one cares if you drive a brand new car because the 75 people there share 4 vehicles.  No one cares if you look like you’re 25 because they don’t buy into the false body image ideals of the corporate/consumer driven media.  No one cares if you make tons of money because no one accepts the superficially contrived establishment-based lifestyle of most Americans.  Has anyone noticed how far off topic I’ve gone?  Nobody at Dancing Rabbit cares if I go off topic!   Ha!

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The thing is we don’t need so much.  We can use things as they are intended to be used, for purpose and beauty and hopefully both at times.  We don’t need to consume and throw away.  The world is meant to be revered, used in a symbiotic manner, and protected.  Not consumed and spit out.  We must cherish our planet and know that we are a part of it, not the ruler of it.  Nature is us and we are killing ourselves.  Off topic again!  I cannot focus today.  That’s okay.  What needs to be said is coming through.

All I am ever really saying is Think.  Think about why you are working so much.  Is it to pay your bills?  Not quite worth it in my humble opinion.  There has to be a better reason for working 40+ hours a week.  If you thrive where you work that’s a different story.  You might be happy working 80 hours a week.

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Is there a simpler way to live?  Yes.  It is to live with more self-sufficiency and more sustainability.  It is to live with less.  Less is less.  Less anxiety.  Less cleaning.  Less scheduling.  Less crappy processed convenience foods.  Less work.  Less driving.  Less TV.  Less fatigue.  Less stress.  Less is also more.  More time.  More relaxation.  More smiling.  More swimming.  More walking in the woods.  More playing.  More dancing.  More gardening.  More cooking.  More friends.  More family.  More happy.

More affirmations:

  • I do not need the approval of anyone.
  • I am enough.
  • I am perfect just as I am.
  • I love my life.
  • All my needs are simply met.
  • I live simply and happily with less.
  • I live in joy!

Imagine living within a like-minded community of souls who value time and play over  stress and work.  Imagine putting more value on fun than minivans.  Imagine spending your time supporting your life and not an invisible entity.  Imagine freedom from conformity.  Imagine dancing to your own music.

 

I invited God to dinner and this is what He said.

“Strange is our situation here on Earth.  Each of us comes for a short visit, not knowing why, yet sometimes seeming to divine a purpose.” ~Albert Einstein

Is there a purpose for your physical existence here, now?  If the universe could talk to you and tell you what you are, here is what it would say.

“You are the love of my life.  You are source energy, the highest vibration, the vibration of perfection.  You are the physical realization of all that is beautiful, joyful, and loving.  There is no one greater than you.  No one more beautiful than you.  There is no one more loved and adored than you are.  You are perfection.  When you were created in your physical body you held all the creative power of the universe within you, and you still do.  You are the most perfect being that ever existed.  The world would be a lesser place without you in it.

You are so important to the consciousness of the universe, so much a necessary part, that it wouldn’t be the same without you.  You bring joy and laughter to my heart.  You are a constant reminder of the perfection of love.

You embody all that is playful, joyful, and free.  If you only knew the joy I receive from being with you and watching you.  I love it when you are filled with the joy of life, when you play with abandonment, knowing how much you are loved.  You are the favorite child, the reason for my existence.  You are the pure essence of love and joy.  I love you more than you will ever know.  You will know my love when you realize how perfect you are.  Until then, know that I love you beyond human thoughts or words, beyond your wildest dreams.  For you are the reason for my existence. You are the love that fills my heart.  You are made from love and filled with love.

When we are in perfect union again, I will rejoice.  You are the part of me that makes me perfect.  I can not tell you how much you are loved, for it is more than can be spoken.  It is more than can be imagined.  You are adored.  You are the best of me.”

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Wow.  And you wonderd why you are here.  Look in the mirror and see this you that the universe sees.  See the object of ineffable love that looks back at you.  This is who you are.  Remember this love that the universe holds for you when you are feeling bad.  Remember how much you are loved and adored.  Rejoice in that love.  Be one with that love.  Feel it.  See everyone else the way the universe sees you.  Reflect the love that you are.

Self-loving affirmations:

  • I am made in the image of God.
  • The kingdom of God is within me.
  • I am one with source.
  • I am loved and adored.
  • I am joyful and playful.
  • I am beautiful.
  • I am magnificent.

Imagine you have invited God for dinner.  Feel how much s/he loves you as you sit and share a meal.  Play a game afterwards.  Laugh with God.

If you still don’t believe it and want a certificate proving you are divine, you can get it here.

Challenge accepted.

“Our actions should be based on the ever-present awareness that human beings in their thinking, feeling, and acting are not free but are just as causally bound as the stars in their motion.” ~ Albert Einstein

When we accept less than perfect love into our souls then we are infecting ourselves with negative energy which we must then work to transform into positive.  We do not need to accept that which does not benefit us.  One of many stories attributed to the Buddha tells of any angry man who approached the Buddha and began to harass him, insult him, and provoke him.  The Buddha asked the man if he had any friends and family.  The man responded that he did.  The Buddha asked him if he ever gave any gifts to his friends.  The man said that he did.  The Buddha asked him what he would do if a friend refused the gift he gave.  The man replied that he would bring the gift home to his family and enjoy it with them.  The Buddha then said, “So it is with you today.  You have brought me a gift which I choose not to accept.”  This is how the Buddha lovingly taught the man that what is offered to us by others is not what we have to accept.

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Lately I have been using a form of affirmation that I never used before.   I would like to share it with you as I have found it very powerful in my life.  Love is greater than fear.  We are always offered either love or fear by others and we always offer either love or fear to others.  Using these new affirmations is reminding me of what I want to accept into my soul and offer to others.

  • I accept only love, compassion, and peace into my heart.
  • I offer only love, compassion, and peace to others.
  • I accept only courage, inspiration, and action for myself.
  • I offer only encouragement, inspiration, and help to others.
  • I accept only happiness and joy for myself.
  • I offer only happiness and joy to others.
  • I accept only love and respect for myself.
  • I offer only love and respect to others.
  • I accept only abundance and wealth for myself.
  • I offer only abundance and wealth to others.
  • I accept only generosity of spirit.
  • I offer only generosity of spirit.
  • I accept only perfect health and vibrance in my physical body.
  • I offer only perfect health and vibrance to others.
  • I recognize only the divine in myself.
  • I recognize only the divine in others.

We are in this body at this time for only a short while, but we can have an impact on the growth of our spiritual consciousness.  We can raise each other up or tear each other down.  We can accept only that which benefits and give only that which empowers love.  When you look in the mirror in the morning repeat these affirmations while looking into your own eyes and know how valuable you are to the enlightenment of all beings.  Offer only what you would offer to your most beloved and accept only what you would want for your most beloved, for you are most beloved.

Imagine that you walk into a restaurant by yourself.  You walk over to a table of strangers and one of them stands up.  What does s/he say to you?  How do you respond?  Are any words exchanged?  What happens?

Buddha used to stay inside, he’s outside now, sitting on the porch.

“I no longer need to take part in the competition of the big brains.  Participating [in the process] has always seemed to me to be an awful type of slavery no less evil than the passion for money or power.” ~Albert Einstein

Years ago I had a Buddha statue inside my house near my front door, he’s outside now.  The Buddha’s hands were empty, so I would put a card in them with some quote or an idea that I liked.  The kids would read it and usually laugh at me.  Or replace the card with something ridiculous, but very funny, that they wrote such as “The frog only wore a vest while riding his bicycle to the doughnut shop.”  One day I wrote on a card, “Whenever you act with love, you are right.”  As I drove to work that day it was all I could think of.  I wondered whether or not it was true.  I debated it for a while, with myself, and decided it was true, but that there is a difference between acting with love and intending to act with love.  We must be able to discern the difference between acting with love or acting in ego, which is acting in fear.

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Parents often say that they are acting with love when they think they are doing something in their child’s best interest, but often they are acting out of fear.  They may make their child go to college, even though the child finds classrooms and any indoor occupation stifling, because they fear that the child will not make enough money in a job which isn’t predicated upon a college education.  They think they are acting with love, but they are acting based on fear of lack.  Lack is one of the most prominent fears in the human mind.  It prevents so many people from doing what they love or from taking risks to attain their dream life.  Many people have led a life of misery due to their parent’s indoctrination of fear.  If this happened to you, you can now take control of your life and take action out of love rather than fear.

Parents even hit or abuse their children under the guise of love, though love is never violent or angry.  Violence and anger come from fear.  The parent does not know how to properly teach a child and without thought, but just as a learned habit, uses punishment as a form of teaching.  They are using negative reinforcement.  And, they most certainly are reinforcing the negative, because when they teach a child that violence is a means to resolve issues they are a long way from love.  Love means explaining with patience, it means accepting mistakes with grace, and giving a child what they need with unconditional acceptance of who they are.  It means loving them even when we are afraid that, like us, they may not be as good as the other kids.  It means not comparing and not judging.

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In relationships we sometimes hold on to people we should let go, not because we love them.   If they would be happier without us then loving them would be letting them go.  If we would be happier without them then loving ourselves would be letting them go.  Sometimes we hold on to them even after they have gone.  We hold on to them because we fear being alone.  We fear that we are unlovable.  We fear separation.

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Whenever you act, look at your motives.  I was once betrayed by someone very, very close to me.  I wrote them a letter and asked a friend to read it and let me know what he thought.  He read the letter and said, “Well, it depends what you’re trying to accomplish here.  If you’re trying to piss him off, it’s a great letter.”  It’s one of those cases of, “Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?”  I, obviously, was not acting from a place of love.  I was not being conciliatory or forgiving.  I was still acting out of fear.  Fear of rejection and betrayal.  Fear of being misrepresented.  Fear of being wrong.  Fear of loss.  Fear of being unlovable.

When we always want to be better than others; better looking, better at sports, better at making money, better at cooking, better at dancing, better at parenting, better at giving, better at fashion, better at volunteering, better at relationships, better at intellectual pursuits, better at anything, we are not acting with love.  When we are in competition, we are acting from fear.  Fear that we are less than others; inferior.  Fear that they are better than us, superior.  Fear that the people we associate with will find out that we are really just a mess like everyone else.

There are so many fears, one of the biggest being fear of embarrassment, the fear of looking foolish or unworthy to others.  When we learn to laugh at ourselves it is a big step in giving up that fear.  Fear of saying or doing the wrong thing can be paralyzing to some.  Realize that we all make mistakes and, more importantly, that everyone cares about your mistakes a lot less than you may think.  They’re usually too worried about what others think of them.  Stop caring about what others think.  Care only about acting with love.  And, give other people a break.  They’re doing the best they can.

When we compare ourselves to others we are giving in to the belief in separation.  We are all one, so why compare and compete?  When one of us wins we are all raised up, when one of us loses we are all defeated.  Let’s think about our lives and others as though we are one, because we are.

When we give up fear, we act with love.  Whenever we act with love, we are right.

Some loving affirmations:

  • I recognize when I am acting with fear and make corrections in my thinking and actions.
  • I act with love with all beings.
  • I care only about doing what is right and acting with love.
  • I accept all beings as they are.
  • I am a worthy and loving being.
  • I laugh at my mistakes and learn from them.
  • I am love.

Imagine that you walk into a crowded square and there are lots of children there.  You begin giving each child a gift.  They each open their gift and are so happy.  What do they find when they open the gift?

Did you really just hit your kid for hitting a kid?

 “…you do have a father who loves you more than anything else and is constantly thinking of you and caring about you.” ~Albert Einstein

I finally got started in a new book group.  So excited, I haven’t been in one for years and this one is called Book ‘n Brew, and we’re not talking coffee.  It’s fun to discuss books while enjoying dinner and a glass of wine.  The group is sponsored by the local library and is led by a wonderful woman who works in the Children’s Library and loves books.

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Last night was the first group I attended.  We deconstructed a book of well over 6oo pages.  There were about a dozen people there and about a half of them either didn’t like the book as a whole, while the other half really enjoyed it.

Because the book was so long and the plot so disjointed (not my words!), our leader thought it might be a good idea to discuss the book’s characters as a way of figuring out the author’s theme and intent.

We finally got to the meanest, nastiest, most unlovable character in the book and started to tear him apart.  Who could possibly like this man who beat his wife and son for years, deserted his son when he needed him most, spent his life trying to track his son down (now a fugitive) to make sure he was punished for a terrible mistake that he made as a young man?   Wow, what a sweetie.  Glad he wasn’t my father.

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This character was a General in the U.S. Army.  Some one in the group said,”How could anyone treat their family that way?”  If you look at it, though, the majority of this man’s life was predicated on the paradigm that violence is a way to deal with conflict.  Of course, someone else said that may be well enough, but why bring it home, why not compartmentalize his life and leave the violence where it belongs.

And here’s the big question.  Does violence belong anywhere?  In a world filled with violence, how can we change anything?  We can’t change anyone else?  We can try, occasionally someone will see the light, but we can really only try to make ourselves better people.  We can only be peace to promote peace.  We can only be the change.  Sounds so trite and simple.  But, isn’t the simplest way always the best?    We can begin at home.  Whenever a child is punished with  violence, whether physical or verbal, we are showing them that violence is a solution to a problem.  Imagine at work if you got hit or beaten for making a mistake or doing something wrong.  Imagine if your boss yelled at you and sent you to the corner to take a time out.   I know I’m going to get a few raised eyebrows on that, after all time out is one of our biggest forms of punishment for children right now, but I don’t think it’s right.  Give me a minute and I’ll explain.

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Do we need to punish children at all?  Has anyone ever asked that question?  When they do something which we consider bad is it because they are bad or because they haven’t yet developed the emotional or intellectual tools to deal with a situation in a way that doesn’t hurt anyone or cause a problem?  Children learn from modeling after their role models and from what they are told.  Unfortunately, for us imperfect souls, they model what they see us do for the most part.  If only they would do what we say and not what we do!  So, how can you blame a child for having a tantrum when their father loses control and screams at them or hits them or throws furniture around.  They are only following his lead.  How can you expect a child not to hit another child when Mom walloped them just last night for breaking another dish?  How can it be wrong and right at the same time?

There are, also, things children do that don’t seem to be behaviors they’ve learned.  A child might steal something.  Why would a child do this if they didn’t learn it from modeling?   If it’s not out of hunger or another strong physical need, then why?  Stealing would symbolize the fear of lack.  It may be that the child perceives a lack of love or a lack of acceptance for who they are and they are trying to fill that need with things.  It may be that their parents talk about money, or the lack thereof, in the child’s presence and so the child always feels insecure about money and possessions.  Generally though, I think that stealing is symbolic of trying to fill an emotional need.

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We can often ask a child until we are blue in the face why they did something, such as steal or lie, and they won’t answer us or they just say they don’t know.  That is often exactly the case.  They don’t know.  As adults we do things so often without knowledge of our motives, we do things by rote, completely unconscious of the belief, thought, or emotion that lead us to the action, and yet, we expect an eight year old to understand the psychology of their behaviors.

As parents we need to be more aware of our behaviors than at any time ever before in our lives.  It’s not just about us anymore.  Whenever we do something in front of our children that is not acceptable to our concept of good behavior we must bring it up and explain to them why what we did was not acceptable.  If we yell at our child we must apologize and tell them that it was wrong because we didn’t show them respect, because we frightened them, and because there is a better way to deal with our anger than yelling.  We can then go on to discuss a better way to deal with our anger.  When our child misbehaves we should take the same steps with them.  We can talk about the behavior and why it was unacceptable.  We can ask them about their opinion on the behavior you saw as unacceptable and see if they can switch places and imagine themselves as the person subjected to their behavior.

When our child makes a mistake, and they’ll make plenty, we can accept the mistake graciously and give them the same kindness we would give a guest who made a mistake.  Sometimes it’s easy to forget that children don’t have the motor skills and mental skills that we have developed.  We can be a little more patient and understanding when we feel they are too slow, there’s a lot of new, exciting stuff out there for them to see.  Instead of rushing them, let’s give them a little more time to sightsee on this amazing planet that is their new home.

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What if your child continues a behavior that you feel you have taken a lot of timing explaining to them the reasons why it is unacceptable?  You just have to take more time.  Try a different way of explaining.  We all process information differently.  Ask them why they keep doing something that is a problem for others and often, themselves.  And ask yourself if it really is a problem.  Maybe they’re not intellectually ready to understand the construct of what you are saying to them yet and it will just take a little more maturity until they can grasp it.  They are doing their best.  Just like all of us.

What about time outs?  If we have a child sit by themselves as a punishment we are telling them that quiet time alone is bad,that  it is not desirable.  Quiet time is not a punishment in the real world.  Ask any adult, it’s a vacation for most!  So let’s not use time outs, but instead, sit with our child and use reason and love to overcome unacceptable behavior.  Talk about safety, kindness, or whatever issue is associated with the behavior, but don’t make a child sit alone, often not even understanding why.

If a child becomes overly emotional (screaming, tantrum, sobbing), we can sit quietly with them and show them how to control their emotions.  Most children are frightened by their heightened emotions and don’t think they can control them, especially if they see their parents lose control at times. We can show them how to calm themselves, simply by being very calm ourselves, and by giving them techniques like deep breathing or walking away from an emotional situation to get their bearings.  Show them that they have the power they need to control themselves.  Empower your children whenever you can.  Let them know they have control over their behavior and emotions without holding them responsible for the things they still can’t control.

I once read an article by a child psychologist, so long ago that I have no idea who it was, but she said that when a child is yelled at for spilling something when they are very young they don’t understand it because they think they didn’t spill it, their hand did.  Apparently they don’t have the control over their physical bodies that we think they should or do at very young ages.

Children are often emotionally fragile, especially with their parents, because all they want is your love, really.  If they know they are loved and not judged, even when they’ve done something that isn’t acceptable, then they will grow up to be happy and loving.  Our words and actions as parents are the biggest contributors to our child’s well-being or lack thereof.  Let’s make it the best we possibly can.  Let’s raise our own consciousness and that of our children and the world at the same time.  When we are love, we raise love.  When we are loving parents, we raise loving people.

Some loving affirmations:

  • I treat children with the same love and respect as adults.
  • I do not judge children for their actions, knowing that they are learning who they are.
  • I treat all people with love and respect.
  • I respond to misbehavior with calm love and reason.
  • All action comes from fear or love.  If someone acts from fear, I respond to it with love.

Imagine yourself as a child.  Do you remember a time when you were misunderstood or punished?  How could it have been handled differently so that everyone felt loved and accepted?

Alarm clocks suck.

“A man must learn to understand the motives of human beings, their illusions, and their suffering.” ~Albert Einstein

What do you do when your alarm clock goes off in the morning?  I bet a survey would show that 99.9% of people hit the snooze button.  The other 0.1% throw it across the room.  I know I always did when I was working that 7am to 3pm day shift.  Every morning at half past dark the alarm would ring and I’d growl or groan or grumble and hit snooze.  It’s just not natural to have a ring or a buzz or a piercing alarm wake you up out of a dead sleep.  It’s a hostile world out there.

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Our first thought upon realizing it is once again time to get up and go to work is one of resentment and anger.  Unless, of course, you got a great night’s sleep and love, love, love your job.  But, if like many, you do not, then it’s a rude awakening.  Nothing makes one want to stay in bed more than the untimely sounding of an alarm clock.

You guessed it, that’s what life is like.  No one wants to be awakened with a harsh lesson.  We all want to learn our lessons the easy way and slowly wake up to them without any consequences for not understanding them sooner, yet we keep oversleeping. Our life is like a dream that we aren’t aware of most of the time.  We do things without  considering how they affect our life or others around us.  We make the same mistakes over and over.  We let life lead us, just as in a dream we follow along.

Lucid dreaming is when we have a dream while we are sleeping and suddenly we  are aware that we are dreaming.  From that point on in the dream we are able to make decisions and change anything we want.  Like we can fly away from a monster, which, seriously, is what I did in a dream once.  I’m not sure if it was a monster, but I knew something horrible was chasing me through a science research center.  I was running as fast as I could, careening down long corridors with closed doors on either side, flourescent lights overhead, until I reached a huge lobby with three stories of glass in a semi-circle in front of me.  The monster was close when I realized I was dreaming.  I was so excited.  I realized I could do whatever I wanted.  So I flew, crashing through the glass soaring into the beautiful blue sky above the trees.

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This dream was about fear.  I was being chased by an invisible monster, an invisible fear, an unknown fear.  There was nothing visible chasing me and yet in the dream I was terrified that I would be killed if I let it catch me.  We do the same thing in life.  We let our imagination conjure up invisible demons.  We let our worries destroy our faith.  We suffer from unspecified anxiety.  We run from the fear of failure or success.  We are afraid to have it all and afraid to have nothing.  The glass wall represented my third eye, my soul, my spirit.  In the dream I realized I could escape by crashing through the glass.  It was symbolic of me recognizing the powerlessness of my fear when making contact with my higher self.  When we are connected to spirit we have no fear.

In our waking life we sometimes act as though we can’t make any changes in our lives.  We continue to do the same stupid things over and over.  We continue to follow old patterns of actions and thinking.  It’s time we tried lucid waking.  It’s called mindfulness and it’s amazing!  We can learn without making the same mistakes over and over.  As the Professor said, we must try to understand our illusions and our suffering.  Self awareness is a beautiful thing and allows us to live a much happier life.

Life reviews are good for us.  Taking a look at patterns in our thoughts and actions is very revealing about what we believe and what illusions we continue to hold onto.  You would think that after we found out about Santa Claus we would question everything, but we don’t.  Start to question everything.  Everything.  If Quantum Physics is teaching us anything, it is that it’s all a matter of perception.  Our consciousness impacts everything we think about, observe, or act  upon.

Start to see with your third eye.  This is the vision of your being, your intuition, your consciousness and the only true reality.  Let go of illusions and you let go of suffering.

And how do you see with your intuition and consciousness?  Here’s that word again, meditation.  I will be doing a post soon on how to meditate that’s a little more in-depth.  For now, try sitting comfortably, relax, close your eyes, take three deep clearing breaths and then just notice your breathing. Don’t change your breathing.  Don’t try to regulate the pattern of your breathing.  Just watch it.  Experience how it feels through your nostrils, notice how your abdomen moves out when you inhale and moves in when you exhale.  Observe your breathing quietly.  If thoughts come up, just return to your observation.  Just keep returning to the breath.  Do that for at least twenty minutes a day.

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Practicing mindfulness is simply being aware of your thinking.  Choose thoughts that work for you and not against you.  Never denigrate yourself.  See the good in yourself and when you slip up, let it go and realize that you just learned something new.  Isn’t that great!

Soon, you’ll be seeing patterns in your thinking and that knowledge and insight will help you to develop new beliefs and new thought patterns that are empowering and life affirming.  Make sure that what motivates you comes from a desire within you and not from the need for external approval.  

When you can be yourself, when you are motivated by your intuition, your suffering will end.

Some empowering affirmations:

  • I am aware of my thoughts and use them to my advantage.
  • I do what I love.
  • I am connected to the energy of the universe.
  • I am a wonderful person and deserve to do what I love.
  • I am filled with the energy of love and creativity.
  • I am one with All.

Imagine you are walking on the beach and you see God walking towards you.  When you ask  “Who am I?” what does God say?