“Fear or stupidity has always been the basis of most human actions.” ~Albert Einstein
So many people come into our lives. All of them there for a reason. No one crosses your path, not even for an instant, without a reason. What the Professor says is probably true of most people, but fear and stupidity don’t have to be the basis for our actions if we are mindful of our thoughts and emotions.
I was once doing some gardening in my front flower garden. An old woman stopped and asked me for a ride to the dock. She was planning on taking the scheduled boat trip to the small island sitting outside of our harbor. I explained to her that the dock was only a few hundrend feet away. She said, “Yes, I know, but I don’t think I’ll make it.”
Wow, I almost threw away a chance to be of service. I said, “No problem.” I helped her into my car and we drove the few hundred feet to the dock. I helped her out of the car and to the ramp where a young man took over and guided her down the ramp to the boat. I had been a little concerned about her going out on the boat without an escort, but seeing the compassionate way the young man at the ramp assisted her helped me to relax and let her go. Sometimes we have an opportunity to be of service and it’s something for which we can feel real gratitude.
Many years ago I was in line at a department store returns counter after Christmas. I was steaming. I was so angry at the slowness of the line and the incompetence of the staff. It was hot and crowded. My hands were full. I could think of a thousand places I would rather have been. To say I was feeling intolerant would be really, really nice of you.
There were two staff members at the counter. There was one line and as a staff person became available the next person in line would go up to the counter for help. When my turn finally came a woman stepped up to the counter in front of me. That was it. I lost it and gave the woman a piece of my mind. She looked stricken, “I’m so sorry, I thought there were two lines,” she said. I didn’t let her off with her apology. I was too far gone. I didn’t know the meaning of the word mindful at that time, or apparently the words patience and kindness!
Later on I felt terrible. I can’t imagine how she felt after being subjected to my negative onslaught. It may not sound like such a big deal, but I was filled with rage at that moment. It was ridiculous. This is what happens when I’m not mindful, when I’m not aware of my emotions and not using them as gauges to my manifesting. Not knowing what manifesting was at that time didn’t matter, whether we know it or not we manifest our energy. I manifested anger and unhappiness, without a clue, I manifested pain.
Two women came into my life for a reason. I was afraid I wouldn’t get my gardening done when the first woman asked me for a ride. I wanted to keep gardening. I was happy and enjoying myself. I wasn’t being mindful. Then I let go of my fear and stupidity and was able to be of service to her and it felt good. I was afraid I would never get out of that hot, crowded store and get home to get things done when the woman got in front of me in the line. I was frustrated and angry; I gave in to that fear and stupidity. If I had been mindful and accepted the situation as it was, none of the unhappiness I caused would have happened. I could have given them both something to remember happily. Instead I gave one grace and one meanness. This is how we learn. I beat myself up for a while over that one. But, now if I make a mistake, I realize it and let it go. I don’t beat myself up. The thing is, the more we learn the less opportunity we have to beat ourselves up, and that’s a very good thing, for us and all the people with whom we come into contact. Now I try to remember to be happy to see everyone who comes into my life, no matter how brief the encounter for they are there for a reason. They are there so that I can see them as love.
Some affirmations for your next mindful meeting:
- I treat all beings with love and respect.
- I extend love and kindness to all beings.
- I allow myself mistakes and do better all the time.
- I am the love which I extend.
- I relish opportunities to be of service.
Imagine a world where everyone treated each other with love and respect, a world in which we realized the reward of service to others.